Life and death are a very important part of the ever-turning circle of existence. To celebrate the life of someone who has died is something that all cultures hold dear. What better way to do this than with a proper funeral. However, proper funeral etiquette is something learned. It can often change depending upon the culture or the group of people whose funeral you are attending. Below are a few ideas you can use so that you can be sure that you have the proper funeral etiquette for any event.
As mentioned, funeral flower etiquette can vary depending upon the culture or religion of the people whose funeral you will be attending. For Christian and Bhai funerals, flowers are definitely appropriate. Catholics also find funeral flowers arrangements highly favorable in funerals. As to a tasteful color, this all depends upon the family. In order to be sure, simply call the family and apologize for their loss. Let them know that you wanted to drop some flowers off for the family to celebrate the life of their loved one. Then ask them if there is a specific type of flower or color you should get. If there is a specific flower or color, this will be your template. If there is no specific color or type, get colors you feel are tasteful for the funeral readings.
While Bhai, Catholic, and Christian religions favor flowers at funerals, there are other religions where sending flowers are not part of their tradition. In the Jewish religion, it is more customary to bring food by to the wake. In Islamic and Hindu religions, it is also customary not to give flowers. If you are planning to send flowers to a family whose customs you are not familiar with, it is best to ask what would be acceptable to bring. Let them tell you what they need and provide it. Remember, when someone has lost someone they love, what they need more than anything is for you to be there for them.
Similarly, funeral attire etiquette can vary from culture to culture.
However, as a whole, it is usually a good idea to wear formal attire. For men, a suit that is a neutral color such as black, grey, navy blue, or brown is good. For women, a blouse with a skirt is a usually worn. However, a suit is also fine. Again, neutral colors are always best, and, when in doubt, speak to the grieving family. They will be able to tell you the proper attire for the funeral.
In the end, when it comes to proper funeral etiquette, you must use your best judgment. Do research, and talk to the family to see what is and what is not appropriate. Follow their directions as requested and don’t veer to the right or to the left. Remember, sending off a loved one is an extremely important task and a difficult occasion for many cultures, and it is vital that we as their supporters follow their wishes so the family will feel at peace. Most importantly, it is important to be there for the grieving family in their time of need.